Have you ever found it difficult to love someone? See, there are some people that are just so easy to love: cute little babies, our best friend, our spouse (sometimes?!?), people we admire or in my case: people who do good. Atleast good as in what I’d consider good. But what about those so-called “difficult” people? You know the ones who don’t do life quite (or exactly) as we would, the ones whose choices seem ridiculous, or the ones who have made “mistake after mistake.” You know atleast one of these people and so do I. You may be one of these people. I am…or atleast I now realize I am. I am so far from perfect it’s not even funny. From the outside looking in, it seems like I have everything together and have life all figured out. The reality is, I am an asshole, I am a jerk, and I need as much forgiveness as the person you despise the most.
It is said, “Love me when it is the hardest because that is when I need it the most.”-unknown.
It is so easy to pick someone a part and judge and critique them on everything they are doing wrong and/or not quite up to your standard. It is easy and somewhat addicting. Ask me to love these folks, you know the Jesus type of love, and I think it’s almost impossible. That’s where grace and Jesus come in. And no, grace is not a long lost relative though for some of you it might be…haha.
The grace I am referring to is the unmerited, undeserved grace that God lavishes on us even in our darkest hour. Alone, loving others unconditionally as God loves us is impossible but insert Jesus into the picture and now this seemingly impossible and painful task possible.
The Golden Rule states: “Treat others the way you want to be treated. Love others the way I love you.”
It does not state: “Treat others the way they treat you or others” or “Treat others based on their past experiences, choices, and behaviour.”
What I realize is that the more difficult I find to love (including forgive) certain people, the greater the effort and commitment it requires of me. This is no small feat. this requires my BEST self-the C team will not suffice. Loving others fully, completely, and wholeheartedly require me….and God. The greater the intention and effort, the more it means to God. He alone knows what’s in our hearts. Loving unconditionally can be somewhat painful and even hurt (is that the same thing?) but I think about what Blessed Teresa of Calcutta once said, “Love until it hurts. Then there can be no more hurt, just more love.”
My living sacrifice to God is to love until it hurts-even when it isn’t easy, even when I just want to tell someone (i.e. vent), even when it seems unfair. I know that I can do this because God is on my side. I see Him smiling down on me because He’s watching me finally start to get it. I know this isn’t going to be easy but as they say, nothing worthwhile ever is.
“Love until it hurts.”-Blessed Teresa of Calcutta